I have talked about this before, but feel the need to reiterated it once again. Are your actions matching your desires? What I mean by this is if you are saying that you want to get into shape and lose some weight, are your actions supporting the outcome of what you desire?
I find that the majority of people do not "act" in support of what they want. They talk incessantly about what they want, but never put the right actions towards getting it. They may want to buy a new car, but never save any money to put towards it. They may want to go to a great college, but do not put the study hours in to get good grades to be able to qualify for a good college.
The thing that I see most of all though, is people who want to be lean and in shape, but do not want to do what it takes to get there. For most of my career in fitness, I have experienced the lack of commitment and discipline in people to reach their fitness goals. I hear "I want, I want, I want", but I see them do little to nothing to get what they want.
If you want to lose body fat and get into shape you must be disciplined and committed to doing the work to get there. You need to exercise five to seven days a week, doing both cardiovascular exercise, and strength training. Exercising one or two days a week will not suffice for getting into shape. It is better than doing nothing, but not enough to get you where you want to be.
If you are complaining or unhappy about the fat on your body; eating french fry's, candy, donuts, sugar cereals, fast food, and drinking soda's, will not help you lose the fat. Yet I see people constantly engaging in this kind of behavior, wanting something, but doing actions that are opposite of what they desire.
Getting into shape, being lean, and staying healthy, requires you to do the things that will get you there. It fascinates me that people are in such denial about that. I have seen clients of mine who have been very unhappy with their weight, to the point of depression, but they continue to eat very unhealthy foods and drink lots of alcohol. You can not be lean and healthy with a diet full of processed, fried, fatty, sugary, foods. You can not get fit if you do not exercise on a regular bases.
Our society has gotten so lazy about taking care of themselves. It is just too much effort to cook a good meal. It is to hard to exercise, after all it feels better just sitting around on our butts, instead of working out. This is what has caused our country to be the fattest, most unhealthy of all industrialized countries in the world. We are the fattest, most nutrient deficient, group of people, yet we are the most affluent. That makes zero sense to me.
So if you want to be lean, healthy, fit, and feel great, you must do the work to get there. Don't complain about the state of your body, if you are eating poorly and not exercising. It takes time, discipline, effort, and focus to get into shape and stay there. And by the way....it is a life long commitment, not a six month stint. Make it part of your daily life to take care of yourself.
No one can do this for you, you have to make the choice to eat well, and exercise, even when you don't feel like it. People think that I always love to eat right and exercise. Not True! There are many days I do not want to exercise, but I do because I know it is good for me, and I always feel better for it. I would love to eat cheese all day long, but I don't because I know it is not good for me. I use my discipline and common sense, that is how I stay in good health, not always because I want to.
So make your choices in how you want to live your life. Do you want to be fit and healthy, or fat and unhealthy. It is all up to you....no one else....just you. You can not blame anyone else if you eat bad and don't exercise. You have the power to be and do what ever you want. How will you "choose" to live your life?