About Me

I have been a teacher of fitness and health for thirty years. In 1989 I was certified for personal training with the National Acadamy of Sports Medicine. I had a gym in Santa Barbara for eight years. Co-owned and created a spinning bike company which manufactured bikes for five years. Also I have worked with nutrition companies for twenty years. Along with many wonderful non famous people I have trained many celebrities, and members of the Royal Family. My own athletic past consists of long distance running, long distance cycling, cross country skiing, down hill skiing, rollerblading, hiking, sand running, track work, and weight training. I have authored two fitness columns in local papers, and have been writing this blog since January 2010.

Monday, December 20, 2010

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Well here we are at the end of 2010, and Christmas is just a few days away.  Are you ready to make your New Years resolution yet?  Most of us make them, and then break them shortly after the new year.  Why not make a New Year resolution to keep your New Year resolution? 

Many people make plans to eat better, exercise, and take better care of themselves, but it is usually short lived before they are back to their old habits of eating poorly and not getting their exercise in.  Make 2011 a new start by committing to your promise to of being a healthier you.

I love this time of year when Christmas decorations are all around and people are busy with holiday fare, but I always look forward to the new year.  It feels as if we are getting a new start, another chance to do things better and achieve new goals.  2011 can be that year for you, if you only commit to it with discipline and focus. 

2011 can be the year that you practice your meditation every day, and are conscious of eating a healthy diet.  2011 can be the year that you get into the best shape of your life by exercising everyday with cardiovascular exercise, strength training, and flexibility exercises.  2011 can be the year that you practice "mindfulness" and be in control of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.  2011 can be your year to empower yourself with all the components of being a "whole" healthy self.

Why not take this opportunity to make a new years resolution to be the best that you can be.  Make the commitment to excellence for yourself.  Leave the past behind you, and move into this new decade with passion to create the "You" that you really want to be.  

It is all up to you to make it happen.  Having access to this blog will give you all of the information that you need to get healthy of body, mind, and spirit.  You will feel better, look better, and achieve more as you travel the journey of getting "whole" healthy.  Your rewards for all of your hard work will be unmeasurable.  You will have self empowerment, self respect, and so much more if you can stay committed to the work.

So make a new start, and enjoy the ride.  It is your choice if you are willing to do the work.  Stop wanting to be in shape, and start doing the work to get there.  Stop wanting to feel better, and start doing the work to get there.  Stop wanting a better life, and start doing the work to get there.

I hope you decide to make 2011 your year for healthy change.  I am here to support you, and will be giving you more tips and advice to help you along that path.  Have a wonderful Holiday, and a Happy New Year.  I will be signing off until Monday January 3rd.  

Best Wishes for 2011
Till Monday January 3rd,

Thursday, December 16, 2010

What Does it Take to be Lean and Healthy?

What does it take to be lean and healthy?  If you have been reading my blog, you should know the answer to this, but it never ceases to amaze me how many people do not know the answer to this question.
If your arms are looking fat to you, doing toning exercise for your arms will not get rid of the fat.  The fat is there most likely because you are eating unhealthy foods, or too much food, and or, not doing your cardiovascular training on a regular bases to keep your body fat in check.

As I have said before, you can not do "spot reducing" exercises to rid yourself of fat.  If your stomach has too much fat on it, doing crunches will not get rid of it.  You will be strengthening your abdominal muscle, but it will still be covered with a layer of fat unless you choose to eat healthy, choose healthy portions, and do regular cardiovascular exercise.

Eating healthy is the biggest part of being lean and in shape.  There are people who seem to be able to eat anything and never get fat, but that does not mean that they are healthy just because they are not fat looking.  I have body fat tested people that did not look fat, but they tested out at 30% body fat, which is considered clinically obese.  You can be fat on the inside, as well as the outside, especially if you have little muscle on your body.

Some people have a faster metabolism that enables them to eat a lot more food, and even seem to get away with eating a lot of junk food.  Sooner or later this kind of diet will prove to be unhealthy for these individuals due to the lack of nutrients and over abundance of simple carbs in their diet.   We tend to always judge skinny people as being healthy, but that is not always true.  Skinny people can be nutrient deficient just as fat people can be.

So let me say this one more time!  In order to have a healthy, lean, toned, body, you need to eat a healthy diet of predominantly natures food, do cardiovascular exercise five to seven days a week, strength train a minimum of three days a week, stretch daily, and include a meditation somewhere during your day.

That is the recipe for a healthy body, mind, and spirit.  If you practiced this for ninety days, you would see such a difference in how you look, and more importantly, how you feel.  Feeling good is really the motivator for doing this work, and the side effect is that you will look great too.

So if you are doing bicep curls to get the fat off your arms, but still eating junk, think again.  If you are doing abdominal exercises to get the fat off your stomach, but are still eating donuts, think again.  You must incorporate all of the components of being healthy to truly become a whole healthy self.  Once you make it a lifestyle, you will never go back to your old ways again.  Feeling good will help remind you of that!

Till Monday,

Monday, December 13, 2010

Keeping Track of Your Calories During the Holidays

During the holidays we are bombarded with festive and fun foods where ever we go.  Whether it is at a holiday party, or just visiting a friend, there are holiday treats to tempt us just about everywhere.  It is easy to add on those unwanted pounds if we are not careful and conscious of what we are eating.

I have written a blog about keeping a food diary during regular times so that you are really aware of what it is you are eating.  Many times we don't count the snacks, or nibbles here and there that we partake in.  If you have not kept a food diary in the past, now is a good time to do it.

You will be surprised at how many extra calories you take in during the holidays.  Writing them down allows you to really see what you are putting into your body.  When you keep a food diary, it is important to judge the quantity of the food you are eating.  For instance, if you are eating a serving of mashed potatoes, estimate if you are eating a half of a cup, whole cup, or as close as you can get to the amount of potatoes you have.  This will help you when you are looking up the calorie count of what ever it is that you ate.

There are several web sites that can give you the calorie count of the foods that you eat.  Calorie King is a good one.  They can give you the calorie count of pretty much any kind of food, including fast food chains, restaurant chains, and food that you buy in grocery stores.  You do need to know the amount for most items.

When keeping a food diary, you need to be as honest as possible with anything you put into your mouth to ingest.  If you have a piece of candy, write it down.  If you take a bite off someone's plate, write it down.  If you take seconds, write it down.  Write down you beverages as well.  You may be surprised at how many hidden calories are in your drinks like, lemonade, soda's, fruit juice's, alcohol, and such.  Write down everything that you eat or drink.

Keeping a food diary can help you to see exactly why you are not losing the weigh that you want to, and doing this during the holidays may keep you from adding on any unwanted pounds.  When you see what you are eating on paper, you get a whole new understanding of why you have gained weight, or are not losing any.

Let's talk about a few holiday treats and how many calories they have.

Fudge has approximately 160 calories for 1 ounce.  (that is a small square)

An ounce of cheddar cheese and five crackers has approximately 200 calories.

One half ounce chocolate chip cookie has approximately 55 calories, but who eats just one?

A five ounce piece of apple pie, (that is a small piece by the way) has average 450 calories in it without whip cream or ice cream.  If you add that add another 250 to 300 calories to it.

Your average holiday meal has approximately 3,000 calories in it, as I have previously stated in past blogs.  This includes your turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, vegetable dish, bread role, and desert. 

So you can see how the calories can add up quickly if you are not being aware of what you are eating.  Keeping a food diary will help you to be more aware and in control of over indulging through these holiday times, and on into you future.

I hope you give it a try if you are concerned about keeping your weight down and losing some body fat.  It does keep you accountable to yourself, and gives you a visual of what you are eating.  Give it a try, and let me know how it worked for you.  Can't wait to hear!

Till Thursday,

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Christmas is Coming....Are You Stressing?

Christmas is just around the corner, and most of us are in shock that it is here already.  As I have said many times before, time seems to have sped up to warp speed and is leaving us all wondering how on earth the holidays came so fast.

This time of the year can be stressful in the best of times, but during our current economic situation, stress levels are higher than I can remember.  Whether it is about buying gifts, going to holiday party's, traveling, being with family, or wondering how you can pay for it all, stress can put a damper on your holiday cheer.

We are coming out of several decades of over consuming, over spending, and too much commercialism during our holiday season.  Giving gifts has become stressful for most of us, when it should be a pleasure and give us joy.  I know many people who hate the holidays because they feel obligated to buy for the fifty or more people on their gift list.  They find no joy in the process, but feel it necessary to send off a gift to nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, friends and their children, and so on and so on.

We all run around like crazy people buying for this person and that person.  The gifts we buy may or may not be appreciated, just like the gifts we receive.  I have received many gifts in the past that ended up in a drawer or closet where they were never used and many times forgotten.  I am sure that I have given gifts that others felt the same about.  It seems rather silly when you think about it, buying gifts for the sake of buying gifts.

Of course there are those in our lives that we buy for where we put extra care and thought into what we are giving, but even those gifts can stress you out, particularly if you do not have the money to shop.  When we do not have the finances to support our holiday shopping, we feel bad and may choose to go into debt so that we can give those gifts that others really don't need and sometimes don't want.  That really seems unnecessary.

I think it would be lovely to go back to a time where our gifts came from things we made, like holiday baked goods, or something we made ourselves like art or a craft of some sort.  I love when I receive gifts that came from someones creative self.  I also like to share a dinner with a friend and call that our Christmas gift.  That way we get to spend time with each other and enjoy a great meal.

Another way to give at Christmas, is to give of your time.  If you have no money for gift buying, offer to do a service for someone, like give them a head and neck massage, or wash their car, or even make them lunch.  Make coupons to give as their claim check for your service.  That way you can put it in a card for their gift.    These things are much more personal, and I am sure much more appreciated by the person who receives it.

Taking someone on a day of fun is a good idea too.  For instance you could pack a picnic lunch and take a friend on a hike, enjoy your lunch together and spend quality time.  I would love that as a Christmas gift.  Or maybe offer to babysit for a friends child for an afternoon, or take someone to the movies, although that will cost a bit.

There are many ways to give during the holidays without stressing yourself out with spending money and buying things.  Get back to the old fashioned ways of giving.  It is less stressful, and easier on your bank account.  We all need a little less commercialism in our lives, even though it lessons the profits of the retail owners.  Until this economy changes for the better, it is best to find ways that are less stressful, especially during the holidays. 

Make your holiday gift giving special by giving something of yourself.  You will make your friends and family very happy!

Till Monday,

Monday, December 6, 2010

What is Your Identity?

Have you ever thought about your identity?  So much of the time, people form their opinion of someones identity by what they are wearing, driving, and how they live materially.  Identity's are also thought of by what a person does for work, or a career.

The truth is, your identity has nothing to do with those things, but has all to do with your essence as a person, your character, your personality, and how you believe and feel.  Yet in our world we focus so much on what a person has materially, rather than who a person is inside.  That is your true identity.

Do you form opinions about people by what they have or own?  Do you think someone has more value if they drive a luxury car, or wear expensive clothes?  Do you think someone is better because they live in a beautiful large home?  If you have said yes to any of these questions, you need to think again about what a persons "real" identity is....and also what it is you think about your own identity.

I have worked with many extremely wealthy people during my career as a fitness professional.  I can tell you from my own experience that money and wealth have nothing to do with a persons character or personal identity.  Some of the people I have met and worked with who have been very accomplished financially, have been wonderful, caring, giving, individuals.  Some of the people with wealth that I have worked with were not of kind character, giving, or caring of others.  It is their essence that gave them their identity, not their wealth.

Nice clothes, luxury cars, and expensive homes, are not what makes someone a great person.  There are many lovely people in this world full of compassion, kindness, and other wonderful traits, that don't have any money, or material things.  These things do not define who we are.

When we see people driving an expensive car, we tend to make a judgement about them that puts them in a better category than others.  If we see someone wearing expensive brand clothing, we see them as a higher class than most.  This is so untrue.  Things do not define anyone, but they can create an illusion of identity in others.

If you have parents that are wealthy, than you probably have had nice things.  Does this make you better because your parents were able to give you a better material life?  Is a woman married to a wealthy man better because she has an expensive lifestyle and lives in a mansion?  No...neither of these things are true.  If you are given a lifestyle because of someone else's efforts, it has nothing to do with your identity or character.  It just makes you lucky to have parents or a husband that can afford you nice things.

Your identity is about who you are.  How you think, believe, and feel about things.  Are you compassionate towards others?  Are you kind, loving, helpful, hard working, honest, disciplined, or curious?  Or are you selfish, rude, mean, self centered, or lazy?  Most of us have a many different character and personality traits in us,some good, some bad, but these are the things that define you, not what you have or own.

When you leave this world, you will not be remembered for the car you drove, or the house you lived in.  You will be remembered for who you were, how you lived, and who you touched while you were alive.  We need to focus more on being a better person, and focus less on what we and others have.  Having nice clothes, cars, and houses, is not a bad thing....it is only bad when it becomes your identity, and that is all there is.  If your identity is in what you have...choose again....think about who you really are inside...that is your essence.

Don't be so quick to judge others by what they own...and don't judge yourself by that either.  Be the person you want to be, and let the material things enhance that.  We could use more people in this world that care more about people and less about what they have.  I believe that if you are a good and caring being, you can create whatever material life you want.  Have your identity be about who you are, not what you have. 

Till Thursday,

Thursday, December 2, 2010

Are Your Actions Matching Your Desires?

I have talked about this before, but feel the need to reiterated it once again.  Are your actions matching your desires?  What I mean by this is if you are saying that you want to get into shape and lose some weight, are your actions supporting the outcome of what you desire?

I find that the majority of people do not "act" in support of what they want.  They talk incessantly about what they want, but never put the right actions towards getting it.  They may want to buy a new car, but never save any money to put towards it.  They may want to go to a great college, but do not put the study hours in to get good grades to be able to qualify for a good college.

The thing that I see most of all though, is people who want to be lean and in shape, but do not want to do what it takes to get there.  For most of my career in fitness, I have experienced the lack of commitment and discipline in people to reach their fitness goals.  I hear "I want, I want, I want", but I see them do little to nothing to get what they want.

If you want to lose body fat and get into shape you must be disciplined and committed to doing the work to get there.  You need to exercise five to seven days a week, doing both cardiovascular exercise, and strength training.  Exercising one or two days a week will not suffice for getting into shape.  It is better than doing nothing, but not enough to get you where you want to be.

If you are complaining or unhappy about the fat on your body; eating french fry's, candy, donuts, sugar cereals, fast food, and drinking soda's, will not help you lose the fat.  Yet I see people constantly engaging in this kind of behavior, wanting something, but doing actions that are opposite of what they desire.

Getting into shape, being lean, and staying healthy, requires you to do the things that will get you there.  It fascinates me that  people are in such denial about that.  I have seen clients of mine who have been very unhappy with their weight, to the point of depression, but they continue to eat very unhealthy foods and drink lots of alcohol.  You can not be lean and healthy with a diet full of processed, fried, fatty, sugary, foods.  You can not get fit if you do not exercise on a regular bases.

Unfortunately, there will never be a magic pill, or machine that will take the place of eating healthy, and regular exercise.  Every time someone comes up with something that is going to be the easy way to get lean or fit, it has turned out to be a health hazard.  Discipline and commitment are the tools that you need to have the body and health that you desire.

Our society has gotten so lazy about taking care of themselves.  It is just too much effort to cook a good meal.  It is to hard to exercise, after all it feels better just sitting around on our butts, instead of working out.  This is what has caused our country to be the fattest, most unhealthy of all industrialized countries in the world.  We are the fattest, most nutrient deficient, group of people, yet we are the most affluent.  That makes zero sense to me.

So if you want to be lean, healthy, fit, and feel great, you must do the work to get there.  Don't complain about the state of your body, if you are eating poorly and not exercising.  It takes time, discipline, effort, and focus to get into shape and stay there.  And by the way....it is a life long commitment, not a six month stint.  Make it part of your daily life to take care of yourself.

No one can do this for you, you have to make the choice to eat well, and exercise, even when you don't feel like it.  People think that I always love to eat right and exercise.  Not True!  There are many days I do not want to exercise, but I do because I know it is good for me, and I always feel better for it.  I would love to eat cheese all day long, but I don't because I know it is not good for me.  I use my discipline and common sense, that is how I stay in good health, not always because I want to.

So make your choices in how you want to live your life.  Do you want to be fit and healthy, or fat and unhealthy.  It is all up to you....no one else....just you.  You can not blame anyone else if you eat bad and don't exercise.  You have the power to be and do what ever you want.  How will you "choose" to live your life?  

Till Monday,

Monday, November 29, 2010

Practicing Acts of Kindness

Have you ever noticed how good you feel when you have been kind to someone else?  That is the reward that we receive when we do for others.  When ever I have done something kind for anyone else, I think I have felt better than they did.  The giver is always receives the most.

It makes me wonder why we are not all out there 24/7 doing kind things for others since we are the beneficiary of feeling good from it.  You would think that feeling good would be an incentive for practicing acts of kindness where ever we go, but many people just don't get it.

Practicing acts of kindness can be as simple as letting someone go in front of you in the grocery line who has just a couple of items.  It could be holding the door open for a stranger, or saying hello to someone you don't know.  There are endless ways to practice kindness all during your day.

Every time I am kind, I feel good about myself, which is always good.  Being kind has been proven in studies to reduce stress, enhance your immune system, increases your joy, and gives you a better sense of self worth and optimism.

On the other hand, being rude, self centered, and mean, lowers your immune system, raises stress levels, lowers your feeling of well being, and increases negative thoughts.  Pretty obvious which one of these behaviors is better to practice.

We live in a society that is driven by what we have, and not who we are.  It is more important for many people to drive a luxury car, or have designer clothes, than it is to be a kind and giving  person.  It is more important to try and be famous for any reason at all, than it is to be known for doing something good.  

It is clear when you see which television shows are the most successful.  Many of the reality shows stars are classless, obnoxious, and lack any moral fiber at all.  Being famous today does not mean you that you have talent or have done something phenomenal, but it could mean that you are gross and stupid and making a lot of money.  The quality of someones character is not the goal anymore.

Kindness is a great way to lift yourself up.  It will make someone else feel good, while you feel great and receive wonderful health benefits as well.  What's not to like about that?  If you haven't practiced your acts of kindness, what are you waiting for?

Seriously give it a try.  Make a point of doing at least five acts of kindness in a day, and notice how you feel afterward. Then raise it up to doing ten acts of kindness....soon you will be addicted to being kind because of how good you feel.  I love doing it, and love when it is done to me.  

Get healthy with kindness....pay it forward....you will be better for it!

Till Thursday,

Friday, November 26, 2010

Walking or Hiking off Your Holiday Meal

It is the day after Thanksgiving, and I am still full from all of the great food that my daughter made for our celebration. My digestive system is not used to dealing with so much food at one time, not to mention all the different types of food that I put into my stomach in one sitting. Proteins, carbs, sugars, fats, all dumped in together during a span of a few hours, makes digestion much more difficult.

The day before Thanksgiving my class of girls and I hiked up Refugio Mt. to the top. After nearly three hours of hiking, we made it up and down that mountain. I told the girls that we were burning off at least half of what we were going to be eating the next day. It was a great hike, and the girls did a fabulous job of getting up and down that mountain.

Today I will be going for a five mile walk with my brother to help lose that full and bloated feeling and get back to feeling normal. I will be burning another five hundred calories with the walk today. Added to the 1,200 or more calories that were burned on the hike, I am feeling better about all that I ate.

It is all about calories in, and calories out, if you want to keep yourself lean and healthy. Walking and Hiking are a great way to lose those unwanted calories that we over eat during our holiday meals. Hiking is usually done in areas where the terrain can be hilly. Walking, although it can be done where there are hills, may be done anywhere for exercise, even in a city.

How many calories you burn while walking or hiking depends on your body weight, the more you weigh, the more you burn. It also depends on how much energy and out put you are willing to give. Is your heart rate up into your aerobic zone, or are you keeping your heart rate low to stay more comfortable. These things will make a difference in your caloric burn.

Wearing a heart monitor is a great way to keep in your zone, and burn the maximum amount of calories that you desire. I have talked about this in several past blogs about the importance of knowing your heart rate zone. Remember to minus your age from 220. That will give you your maximum heart rate. The place you want to be is within 65 to 85% of that maximum number. This is where you will burn more fat, and strengthen your heart and cardiovascular system.

Not being in your zone, whether it is too high or too low, will not give you the best results. If you are going to invest your time and effort into exercise, isn't it smart to get the best results out of it that you can?

So if you are feeling a little overly stuffed from your holiday meal.....take a walk or a hike to get you back to feeling better. As I stated in last Monday's blog, our average holiday meal packs a whopping 3,000 calories into our system. That is a day and a half's worth of calories, and nearly three days worth of fat.

It is a beautiful fall day where I live. Many of the trees are turning gold, orange, and red. There is a bit of a nip in the air, and the sky is a magnificent blue. I am looking forward to walking and seeing all of the fall colors, the horses, donkeys, vineyards, and others that are out enjoying this wonderful day.

I hope that your Thanksgiving was a happy one, and that you are out walking or hiking off your fullness too. Enjoy this day!

Till Monday,

Monday, November 22, 2010

Calories in Your Thanksgiving Meal

Thanksgiving is just a couple of days away. It is shocking that it is here so soon....but I have been saying that all year about every holiday. 2010 has zoomed right on by, and in a little over a month will be gone.

Lets talk about your Thanksgiving meal, and how many calories and fat grams will be in it. Of course this is one of those times that we let go of our limiting the calories, and eat more than we normally do. It is a special day of celebration, eating and drinking more, is expected.

There are a few things that you might want to know before you over indulge on this holiday. For instance; the average Thanksgiving meal has around 3,000 calories, and 229 grams of fat in it. Remember, that is just for "one" meal, not including what you eat after wards or before your holiday feast.

If you base your calorie intake at 2,000 a day maximum, clearly you will be over your max with this one meal. The average person should not have more than 80 to 100 grams of fat per day, so you can see that 229 grams of fat are excessive.

If you wanted to exercise this meal off you would have to walk approximately thirty miles to do it. That my dear friends would take you six to ten hours to get it done. You could run it off, but you would have to run for four to five hours straight to achieve that kind of caloric burn. You could bike it off too, but be prepared to ride about 80 to 100 miles in order to burn that kind of meal off.

One thing you can do though, is down size your portions. Down sizing is all the rage these days anyway so, eat half of the mashed potatoes and gravy you would normally eat. Take larger portions of salad, or food items that have less fat or sugar in them. Have half the dessert that you would normally have, and stay away from snacking on cookies and such.

If you are one of those that eat celery stuffed with cream cheese, you might want to know that each celery stalk with cheese is approximately 45 calories, having just four of these adds almost 200 calories to your meal. Snacking on a half of a cup of mixed nuts, which many do for their holiday meal, is a whopping 440 calories. Just in those two snack you can add over 600 calories to your meal, and you haven't even started with the main course yet.

You can throw caution to the wind on Thanksgiving, and eat what ever your hearts desire, but understand the consequences if you are trying to lose some weight. This meal will throw you off track if you don't use some constraint. Most people do not like the feeling of being overly full after a meal like this. It can be quite uncomfortable and make you fell tired and bloated. Showing a little constraint can cut down on your calorie intake, and help you to feel better physically and mentally.

Its up to you, as it always is, to decide how you will proceed during your holiday eating. Are you going to gain that extra five to ten pounds that will make you unhappy? Or are you going to use some discipline by reducing the intake of "too" much unhealthy food this year, and feel good about your self after the holidays have come and gone?

You can still enjoy these fun foods by eating smaller portions. Moderation is the key. You will feel better both physically, and mentally, by exercising your will power, discipline, and desire to achieve your weight loss goal.

I hope your Thanksgiving is full of fun, family, loved ones, and healthy good food! Enjoy!!

Till Friday,

Thursday, November 18, 2010

What is Your Story?

What is your story? We all have a story that we tell ourselves over and over through our lifetime. It could be a story about the bad child hood you had, or a story about how you never have any money. It might be a story that you are not talented, or possibly a story that you won't ever be successful because you don't have a good education. Whatever your story is...you might want to take a look at it, and see if your story is what is holding you back.

I have had a story that I have told much of my life. My story has to do with my childhood. I have used this story to justify why I have held myself back in my life. I have used it to justify why my relationships failed, and I have used it to justify just about all of my dysfunction in my life.

The fact that my childhood was non supportive and dysfunctional had nothing to do with me. I had the choice to not be a victim of it, but instead I made the choice, unconsciously, to let it be the reason why I have struggled and made bad choices in my life. My circumstance was not personal to me, but I chose to take it all personally.

No one ever told me I could think differently. No one told me that what happened to me was not about me. In fact, no one ever spoke about anything that had to do with my experience growing up. That is why I write this blog, so that others can look at their life, and see that they too have the choice to get rid of their story, and stop taking everything that happens to them personally. They too can make the choice today to stop being a victim of their circumstance, thoughts, and actions.

There is small percentage of the population that has the discipline and focus to create the life they want. Everyone "talks" about what they want, but few do what it takes to get it. This is where your "story" helps to support why you are not doing what you need to do to get what you want in this life. Your story allows you to be the victim, but that will never get you what you want. It will just keep you stuck in your belief that something outside of you has control over what you can and can not do in your life.

I suggest that you make a new story for yourself. If your story is about your childhood, begin by telling yourself that your experience has made you stronger. Tell yourself that none of it was personal. Believe that your childhood experience was needed to go on and do the work you will do to become successful. Turn it all around, and think of it in a positive light, instead of seeing it as the reason you can fail.

If your story is about never having enough money to live the life you would like, change your story to one of success and abundance. Believe that you will have wonderful opportunities to create wealth, regardless of your past. Tell a new story about how you are going to create the business you want, or the education you want, or whatever it is that your dream about doing. Tell that story from now on, and soon you will believe that more than the one about lack. Belief is powerful.

Whatever your story is, if you use it to justify why you can't be and do what you want in life, change it. Stop telling your negative story to yourself, or anyone else. Let it go, change your beliefs, and tell a story that is how you want your life to be. Telling your old, tired, sad, story, will never benefit you in any way. Telling yourself and others a new, positive, exciting, story of how great your life will be, will benefit you. Put action, discipline, and focus to your words, and you will never fail.

Till Monday,