Don't Be a Victim of Your Own Thinking and Actions

In recent days, I have had several conversations with people about being a "victim" of our own thoughts.  If you have been reading this blog, you know that I believe that we choose every thought that we have, consciously or unconsciously.  If we have thoughts that are counter productive to becoming who we want to be such as, "I am choosing to eat this bad food, even though I want to lose weight", or "I am not going to exercise today because I am too tired, even though I want to be fit", we then become a victim of our own thoughts.

I realize that many people do not want to believe that they "choose" every thought and action that they have, because that would make them responsible for all that they are.  They could no longer blame anyone for their lot in life if they were the ones responsible for it..  We can all sit around and blame our parents, spouses, or others that have had great impact on us for what we consider abuse or negativity in our lives.  "I eat bad food because my parents didn't love me", or "I do drugs because I had an abusive childhood".  Whatever it is that you believe has caused your pain can be valid, but how you choose to react to it, is always "your" choice.

Many people have had abusive lives, and out of that abuse came choices.  Choices in how to think and react to the abuse. Choosing to do drugs, over eat, drink alcohol, or engage in any kind of behavior that destroys your health and your life, is a choice that makes you just another victim....a victim of your own thoughts and choices.  I know this, because I was a victim of my own thoughts and choices for a big part of my life.  Being a victim of myself has never been a benefit to me, it only made things worse.

It is not easy to choose healthy thoughts and actions, if you have come from a background of unhealthy thoughts and actions.  But, you do have the choice to not be a victim anymore if you want to live a life that benefits the health of your body, mind, and spirit.  It is also not "easy" to keep choosing unhealthy thoughts and actions and to continue the cycle of abuse, it is just more familiar because it has become habitual.

One of the most important things to remember when we keep engaging in unhealthy behavior, is to put discipline back into our vocabulary.  It amazes me how many people, especially our youth of today, do not discipline themselves in anything.  "I am too tired to exercise today", "They had donuts at class today, and I couldn't stop myself from eating them", "I just can't exercise and eat right because it is too hard".  These are the comments that I hear constantly from people.  Well if you put a little "discipline" back into your life, you can accomplish anything that you want.  Without discipline, reaching any goal would be impossible, unless that goal was to be overweight, lazy, and unproductive.

It is not easy to break old habits....but it is possible with discipline.  Its not easy to think more positive when you are used to negative thinking, but it is possible with discipline and focus.  It is not easy to react in new ways that will benefit you, when you have been used to reacting unconsciously in dysfunctional behavior, but it is possible when you use discipline and are conscious of your behavior.  All of this takes effort, discipline, and being conscious of how you are thinking and acting. 

So if you are wanting to have a healthier, happier, life, but feel at a loss of how you can turn your own dysfunctional thoughts and actions into more positive choices.....begin by being responsible for how you are thinking and acting.  No one else is to blame, no matter what has happened to you.  You still get to choose every second of every day how you want to think and act.  If you choose to be a victim, then you will continue to suffer.  If you choose to take responsibility for where you are at in life, then you will be in a power position and able to take charge of how your life unfolds. 

You get to choose how your life turns out.  Stop being a victim of your own thoughts and actions.  Choose thoughts and actions that benefit you.  It is all up to you to think and act in a way that is going to give you the life you want, or it will keep giving you the life that you are a victim of. 

Let me know your thoughts on how this works in your life.  If you have been practicing "mindfulness" then you understand how this works.  If you have not been working with mindfulness, you now have a tool that can radically change your life for the better.  Let me know if mindfulness has had an impact on your life....would love to hear your experiences with it.

Wishing you Health and Happiness,

Queenie

The Power of Meditation

There is so much going on in our world today that is stressful and hard to deal with, whether it is our natural disasters, or political upheaval, we can find fear and stress everywhere.  Meditation is a tool that everyone should be using, not only to cope with all that there is, but to help change all of the negative in this world into positive.

As I have said before, the Dali Lama has stated that if every child alive today at the age of five and under began to meditate on a daily bases, we would have world peace in two to three generations from now.  That is a powerful thing....and it could be a reality if everyone began to participate in meditation.
  

Meditation is not about religion.  It does not matter what your religious beliefs are, you can meditate by connecting to your source, what ever that is for you.  When you are meditating, it is not so much about emptying your mind of thought, as it is emptying your mind of thoughts that are about the past or future.  When you are focusing on your breath, or being present in this very moment, you are unable of thinking about past or future thoughts, which is where a lot of our fear and pain comes from.

When you have emptied your mind of all of your thoughts of past and future, you will no longer be torturing yourself with that which is not here anymore, or that which has not happened yet.  What you will be thinking about is what is here in this moment, which is your breath and the quiet space that you are meditating in.  That is where you are able to find your inner peace and rid yourself of worry and fearful thoughts.  Remember that we choose all of our thoughts, and in our meditation we are choosing to not think of anything that has come before our meditation, or after it.

Meditation is place of peace and non judgement.  It is a time to let go of all of the mind chatter and negativity.  Meditation can leave you feeling  relaxed and refreshed.  It is a vacation away from worry, stress, and fear.  As you become more adept in your meditation, you can find answers to your problems, and guidance for your life.  It happens when you learn to quiet the mind chatter and listen to your inner being, or your source as some call it.

I have written many times on meditation that you can find in the archives of this blog.  Please re-read them if you are looking for more information on meditation.  There are many different forms of meditation, and I suggest that you find one that resonates with you.  I personally practice several types, such as focusing on my breath, visual meditation, or guided meditations.  Some days I am better at it then other days, but I know that being consistent with it is what is important.

Many people I have worked with in meditation express that they can't stop there thoughts from coming in, or clear their mind of thinking.  I have heard the analogy of thinking about your thoughts as a cloud passing by....Say to yourself, "Oh, I am having a thought", and then let it go, just like a cloud passing through, and then go back to your breath.  Don't let your thoughts control you....instead, control your thoughts.  As in our mindfulness practice, we "practice" controlling our thoughts on a regular bases.  Meditation is the same.  It is a practice...a daily practice to become good at it.

Don't be discouraged if you can't get it right away.  Just keep practicing, and it will become a tool for you to find inner peace and tranquility.  You are not only helping your mind when you meditate, but you are helping your body to be healthier as well.   There are scientific study's that show very positive effects on patients who meditate.  It helps to lower blood pressure, stress levels, and assists in many other healthy results.  There is nothing negative about meditation....just positive.

You will also be helping the world to be a better place by practicing meditation.  Our thoughts are tangible things that create the world around us.  When we practice peaceful meditation, we are helping the world to be more peaceful.  If every human being on this planet stopped right now and meditated on "peace and love" for all of mankind for the next thirty minutes....I guarantee that we would see incredible changes in what happens around the globe....and they would be peaceful, loving, and amazing!

We are in a very interesting time, and taking care of our body, mind, and spirit, will be essential to being happy and healthy during a time of what can appear to be scary and stressful.

I hope that you are meditating, and if you are not, I hope that you begin to.  I would love to hear from you about any topic that you want to discuss.  Please leave me a comment or request information that you are interested in.  

We can create a world of peace and tranquility with our thoughts and beliefs.  With meditation this can happen.  

Wishing You Health,

Queenie

Keeping Your Mind as Fit as Your Body

 
This is another reminder to make sure you are training your mind, as well as training your body.  If our thoughts are not in alignment with what we are wanting, such as a fit and healthy body, our goals may never be met.  If our minds are telling us that we are too tired, too busy, or too over whelmed to work out and eat right, our minds usually win.  When that happens, our goal of being healthy and fit can not be reached.

I have found that there is always something that we can use as an excuse to not work out or eat right.  Life will always present us with reasons why we should be doing something else other than taking care of ourselves.  In actuality, it is our underlying desire to not be uncomfortable and give the effort it takes to work out and eat properly.  It is always easy to grab fast food, or processed food, rather than make the effort to choose something healthy.  It is always easier to put off the workout for tomorrow because you may have a list of things to get done today.  It is a game that many of us play with ourselves constantly.

These are the times that it is important to remind yourself what is it that you really want out of this life.  If you want to feel good, be more productive, ward off disease, and look your best, than not doing your workouts and choosing to eat poorly are not good choices for you.  I realize that some people just do not care about their health, or how they feel.  Being inactive and eating badly support their goal of not being fit and healthy.  However, I believe that most people do want to feel and look their best, therefore this article is for that group of people, not for people who do not care how they feel, or how they look.

In the archives of this blog there are many articles about mindfulness and choosing your thoughts.  You can find them easily when you click on the individual months of each year in the blog archive category to the right of the blog.  I recommend that you go back and read them to reinforce "mind" training to benefit your choices and goals in life.

We choose every thought that we have in a day, over 60,000 of them to be exact.  Many are benign and are not thoughts that make huge differences in our life, such as a thought about the way a bird is flying, or how the hillsides look greener than usual.  The thoughts that we need to be a guardian over are the ones that shape and define who we are, or who we want to be.  Thoughts like, "I need to work out today, but I am too tired or busy to do it", or "I need to lose twenty pounds, but I'll start my diet tomorrow so I can have this cupcake today".  Those thoughts and choices do not support what it is you really want, yet they seem to have greater  power over the thoughts that will get you to your goals.

Begin to train your mind by becoming aware of the thoughts that you have that are sabotaging the outcome of what it is that you want.  You can not blame anyone but yourself when you make choices that do not jive with your goals.  Think of yourself as a ship at sea, and you are the captain of this ship.  Your ship is on a journey to certain destinations and ports.  If the captain does not make the right choices, the ship can never reach the right destination of its plotted course.  Your life is a course that you plot.  Without "You" the captain mapping out the right decisions to get you to the ports that you want to get to, you could end up never reaching the destination that you want to be at.  That is how many of us live our lives, not mapping out any course, but just wandering around in a big ocean not knowing where we are going.

Remember that you have the power to reach what ever destination that you want to, if you take charge of your thoughts and actions to plot the right course.  Can you imagine a captain of a big ocean liner waking up in the morning and saying, "I am too tired today to deal with the navigation of this ship today.  I'll do it tomorrow".  Tomorrow the ship would be so off course that a greater deal of work would have to be done to correct its course.  That is the same thing that happens to us when we allow our thoughts and choices to take us off course.  It becomes harder and harder to get back on track.

Become the captain that takes charge of its ship and destination.  Become the guardian of your own thoughts  and the course that they take.  Don't let yourself wander around at sea without the navigation that will get you to the ports that you want to be at.  It is all up to you....it is always a choice....a choice that you make each and every day of your life.  Train your mind as you train your body with daily and consistent workouts.  Keep vigil on how you are thinking and how you are putting those thoughts into action.  Do not be a victim of your own thoughts.  Be in charge!  Take control!  Sail into the life you want with thoughts and actions to get you there.

Till Monday,

Queenie

What is the Best Exercise?

 

A friend of mine sent me an article from the New York Times today titled, "What's the Single Best Exercise".  It was very interesting, and peppered with different opinions from different experts, but something that struck me about this information is that many of us don't need to know what the best exercise is, we just need to exercise at something. 

Knowing that more than half of our population does not participate in any exercise at all, finding the best one is interesting, but more importantly, we should make sure we are doing something, even if it is not the "best".  

The "Butterfly" stroke in swimming was noted as one of the best exercises, as it "burns more calories, demands larger doses of oxygen, and elicits more fatigue than other activities".  However, swimming every day is not a choice we all have, or want.  This article is full of great information on different types of exercise, and cites studies that prove their effectiveness.  It was published on April 15th, and I recommend reading it if you are interested in understanding how different types of exercise work on the body.

Finding the best exercise for you is more important than knowing what the most effective exercise is for all.  Everyone is different in their needs, whether it is about time, location, body type, age, fitness level, and so on.  As I have stated in the past, using a cross training program is a good way to avoid boredom and lesson the risk of injury.  Also, finding an exercise that you enjoy is key to being consistent and sticking with it.  No matter how effective the exercise is, if you don't like it, you won't continue it.

Some people use walking as their only form of exercise.  This is a great way to get your exercise in, and the fact that it might be the only way that you exercise is perfectly fine.  You are at least moving your body, getting some fresh air, and being consistent in exercising. 

Another form of exercise that was noted in the article as being one of the best was running up stairs.  If you have a stair case in your home, you have a built in gym!  Run up and down your stairs several times a day, and you will be doing one of the best exercises there is according to the experts in this article.  I have done stadiums steps at a local college for years, and I know they are effective.  It definitely is a powerful way to exercise, and you don't have to do a lot of them to get results. 

Bike riding is another way to be effective while exercising.  This is my favorite way to exercise.  Cycling brings out the "kid" in you, and it also burns a higher amount of calories than many other types of exercise.  Peddling at 10 miles an hour will burn an average of 500 calories in a 60 minute ride, and it is a whole lot of fun.  Riding at a higher speed will obviously raise that caloric burn.

We are experiencing an epidemic of obesity in our country today.  Everyone should be doing some form of exercise a minimum of five days a week if we are to turn this situation around.  Of course the main source of our obesity is not just the lack of exercise, but exists in the type of foods that people are choosing to eat.  You can go back into the archives of this blog and find article, after article about this problem of processed foods, junk foods, fast foods, white flour, and white sugar foods, which are the culprits of why over 65% of our population is over weight or obese.  Adding in exercise is vital for your health, but choosing a diet that is mainly from natures foods, and avoiding processed foods is paramount to having quality health.

So find a form of exercise that you enjoy and that you can be consistent with.  Couple that with a diet rich in fresh fruits, fresh vegetables, lean sources of protein, nuts, legumes, and whole grains.  Practice portion control.  Stay away from processed foods, junk foods, fast foods, white flour and white sugar products.  This is the recipe for optimal health.  There is no short cut, or magic pill that will ever take the place of participating in a daily exercise routine and eating a healthy diet.  If you want to be healthy, feel and look your best, it will take exercise and a healthy diet to get there.

Till Monday,

Queenie

Muscle Up!

Working with your body to create muscle is an important part of staying fit and healthy.  Muscle helps us to stay young, strong, and vital.  There are many myths about having muscle that I would like to address.  First off, creating large muscle takes a lot of work, focus, and effort on ones part.  You will not build big muscle by lifting weights a few days a week, unless you are a genetic freak!

Throughout my thirty years of teaching fitness, I have heard hundreds of times from women, "I don't want to have big muscles."  Unless you are going to devote your life to "body building", trust me, you will not get that big.  It takes commitment to proper nutrition, daily workouts, and getting enough sleep to even get close to building big muscles.  Some people have certain areas of their bodies that have the propensity to grow faster and bigger, but for the most part it takes quite a bit of effort to build big muscle.  Body builders spend much of their day devoted to building muscle, whether it is in their training, their diet, or their sleep.

Another thing that I have heard over and over is, "When I stop working out, will my muscle turn into fat?"  No it won't.  Muscle is muscle, fat is fat.  They do not turn into each other.  What does happen when you stop working out after you have built muscle, is your muscle will atrophy and you will probably gain more fat from not working out.  It is simple and logical.  Working out creates muscle and keeps you lean, not working out will cause you to lose muscle and gain fat.

What muscle does do for you is all positive.  When you develop muscle in your body you will speed up your metabolism, build bone density, reverse your aging process, burn more calories at rest, tone and define your body, become stronger, and feel better all around.  Having muscle is a win win no matter how you look at it.

I have spoken before about the "Blue Zones" in our world.  These are areas in the world where people live into their hundreds without disease and medications.  They are active up until the day they die.  One of the things that the Blue Zone people have in common is that they build muscle throughout their lives on a consistent bases.  It might be by doing gardening, or other household chores, but they are always active in some kind of way that builds muscle.

Creating muscle can be done with free weight, weight machines, resistance training, palates, push ups, pull ups, lunges, squats, and ball exercises.  Many cardiovascular exercises help develop muscle for certain parts of the body such as running and biking for the butt and legs, and rowing for the upper body. 

It is important to understand that the body needs protein to create muscle.  Protein is the main nutrient that helps the body build and strengthen muscle.  Without proper amounts of protein, it is difficult to create or keep muscle on your body.  Most women need a minimum of 50 grams a day, and men need at least 65 grams for optimum health.

Your posture and balance is improved with muscle.  Your body's appearance is better with muscle.  You will live longer and healthier with muscle.  Muscle is key to having a lean and healthy body.  What's not to like?

When you are creating your fitness program, make sure you include muscle building activities to insure a balanced regime.  If you are lifting weights, a minimum of three days a week is recommended.  Make sure you know proper form when doing weight training to avoid injury.  There are classes and of course trainers to help you with this process.  Proper form is a must when weight training.

So don't forget your "Muscle Building" activities in your workouts.  It is an important part of being healthy and fit.  You will look fantastic as well, which is always a good thing!

Till Monday,

Queenie

Fighting Obesity with Diet and Exercise

There has been a lot in the news lately about the obesity epidemic in our country.  With 65% of our population over weight or obese, something needs to be done to reverse this unhealthy situation or we will end up having to build more hospitals to house all of the sick people dealing with obesity related diseases.

It is difficult for me when I hear Doctors or Health professionals say that surgery is the answer for people who are obese.  Just last week I heard a doctor say that it is the only answer to this problem.  What ever happened to eating correctly and exercising regularly?  I understand that when a person becomes obese that there is obviously more of a challenge to eat right and exercise, but it certainly should not be ruled out as an answer to the problem.

If an obese person began to eat healthy foods, healthy portions, and add in exercise on a daily bases, they would be able to lose the weight and become healthier for it.  I also realize that people that gain a large amount of weight by eating white flour and white sugar products can become addicted to those types of foods which will make them obese over time.  This addiction is just like being addicted to drugs, alcohol, or any other type of substance.  It will be difficult to break this addiction, but not impossible.  Surgery is not the only answer, it is "a" answer if one so chooses.

 

With any addiction therapy can be very helpful, and in most cases should be a part of the treatment.  Usually when anyone has an addiction, there are issues inside that need to be dealt with.  Many times  addiction is used to numb or ignore what is really the problem.  Therapy is vital to stopping addiction.

Age is another factor.  The older the person and the longer they have had the weight on, the harder it will be to get it off.  But, it is still not impossible to do it with proper diet and exercise.  The thing that will be required is self discipline, focus, and commitment to sticking with your resolution to get the weight off and be healthy.

Self discipline is something that many people forget about.  Like these doctors that I hear promoting weight loss surgery's....they never talk about what really needs to be focused on like eating correctly and exercising regularly.  They just announce that surgery is the only way that these people can lose the weight.  Really?  It  may be one way to create weight loss, but if that person does not begin to eat right and exercise regularly, guess what...the weight they lost with surgery, will be back in time.  

 
We need to stop acting as if being obese is not in a persons control.  It has to do with unhealthy lifestyle choices like eating processed foods, fast foods, and junk foods, in large amounts as the main source of dietary choices.  It has to do with not moving their body with exercise on a regular bases.  It is a choice to be obese whether anyone wants to hear that or not.  We choose what we eat.  We choose whether we exercise or not.  It is all a choice any way that you look at it, irregardless of what the source of our pain is.

We wouldn't tell an alcoholic or drug addict that it is not in their power to stop their addiction, and that the only way to do it would be to have a surgery.  It is "only" in their power to stop their addiction, and it will be difficult, challenging, and maybe the hardest thing they have ever done, but it can be accomplished if they truly want to change and live a healthy life.  The same thing applies to anyone who is obese.  They can choose to stop doing the things that have created their situation, just like a heroin addict can choose to shoot heroin or not.  I am not saying it is an easy thing to do, but breaking an addiction is never easy.  There are many addicts that have over come their addictions, and many who have not.  It is a personal choice to do so, and a food addict is no different.

I hope that people stop thinking that food addicts are any different than any other addict.  They aren't. They need support, love, and help like any addict does, but our society acts as if obesity is not that big of a problem. Why?  Well most of our population is overweight, so most of our population believes it is not that big of a deal. With 65% of our population heading in that direction, it is a huge problem.  We could rid ourselves of most of the heart disease in this country along with most of the type 2 diabetes, 50% of some cancers, most of the stroke victims, and more.  

The money that could be saved on taking care of obesity related disease could be put to better use like our children's education that has been raped of funding.  There a billions of dollars every year that go to caring for sick people that are dealing with obesity related diseases.

I have people in my life that I love dearly that deal with obesity.  It pains me to see them suffer with this issue.  I know that it makes them unhappy and miserable to have that weight on them.  I know they hate it more than anything else in their lives.  I understand how hard it is for them to stop their food addiction, but the answer is not to say it is impossible.  The answer is to begin to live the lifestyle that will reverse their situation.  Their answer is to get therapy, and have a support system that helps them reach their goal of being leaner.  Maybe surgery is part of that answer, but it is certainly not the only part of that answer, learning to make better choices is the most important part of the answer, and dealing with the core reasons why they use food to numb their issues. 

I pray for anyone who has this "monkey" on their back.  Addiction of any kind takes away the quality of life that we should be living.  Remember that "food" is just like any other drug when it is used for an escape.  We need to find solutions to our obesity epidemic.  Using surgery as the only solution...is not the answer.

Till Monday,

Queenie

Cross Train to Avoid Injury and Boredom

Cross training is the best way to train if you want to lower your risk of injury, and keep boredom out of your exercise regime.  I have covered this topic before, but like everything I have written about, it is worth revisiting.  Basically, cross training is using a variety of training methods to achieve your fitness goals.

I believe that you must do cardiovascular exercise along with strength training, and stretching to have a complete fitness program.  In some forms of exercise you can achieve more than one of these objectives by performing one exercise.  For instance, if you are hiking in an area where there is steep terrain, you will not only receive benefits for cardiovascular exercise, but you will be getting strength training for your legs and butt as well.  You can find a spot to do a few sets of push ups along the way, and you have worked much of your body with this one hike.

Perhaps the next day you will decide to do some weight training, and cardio on the treadmill, concluding with a few yoga poses.  The following day you take a fast pace walk interspersed with a little jogging, followed by a stretch.  Then the day after that you take a bike ride, come home and do several minutes of plank exercise, and then a floor stretch.  Then you decide to take a kick boxing class at your local gym the day after that.  This is what cross training is.

Cross training not only helps you to avoid injury and boredom, it will help the body to keep from acclimating to, or getting used to doing one activity over and over by using fewer calories and energy to do it.  Cross training confuses the body more and doesn't allow this acclimating process to happen as easily.

As a fitness trainer for thirty years I can tell you that variety is the best way to train.  However, I also understand that there are only so many ways to train your biceps, or train your shoulders safely.  Sometimes we have to be O.K. with a certain amount of repetition when it comes to training the body.  People come up with weird things all of the time in the fitness world, but many of the "old" standard exercises that are a safe,  are better way to train then some of the new and different ways created just to be different.

I love to ride my bike, sand run, hike, race walk, and jog.  Strength training for me involves free weights, weight machines, the exercise ball, and resistance exercises like the plank.  These are the types of exercises that I use to cross train.  I have never used swimming for exercise, but it is a great thing to add in to your cross training program if you like it.  The key is to "like" the exercises that you are choosing.  If you are doing something that you really hate, you won't want to do it.  Find the things that you enjoy to create your cross training program.

I tend  to exercise by myself most of the time, but I do like to ride bikes, or hike with a friends.  Actually, I recommend that you always hike with a friend, or friends, as it is safer to do so.  Many people are more motivated to exercise with somebody, rather than go it alone.  Find out what works for you and follow through with it.  If you need a work out buddy, find a partner that is not going to flake out on you.  Make the commitment together to get into shape, and then keep each other accountable to your fitness schedule.

Cross training can make your exercise program much more enjoyable.  Lowering your risk of injury is a great plus.  This happens because your body is using different muscles, in different ways, which allows the body to not be over used by doing one type of exercise .  Elite athletes sometimes experience injury due to the fact that they are performing the same sport or exercise over and over again, creating fatigue and weakness in areas of their bodies.  They must do this to be the best at their particular sport, but most of us do not need to over use our bodies in this way.

So create a cross training program for yourself to avoid boredom, and lower your risk of injury.  You will have better results and enjoy your workouts more when you add in variety.  It all adds up to being fit, healthy, and looking great! 

Till Monday,

Queenie