- I have been a teacher of fitness and health for thirty years. In 1989 I was certified for personal training with the National Acadamy of Sports Medicine. I had a gym in Santa Barbara for eight years. Co-owned and created a spinning bike company which manufactured bikes for five years. Also I have worked with nutrition companies for twenty years. Along with many wonderful non famous people I have trained many celebrities, and members of the Royal Family. My own athletic past consists of long distance running, long distance cycling, cross country skiing, down hill skiing, rollerblading, hiking, sand running, track work, and weight training. I have authored two fitness columns in local papers, and have been writing this blog since January 2010.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Let's Talk about Mindfulness Again!
I want to revisit our study into mindfulness. It is probably the most important thing that you can do that will create a life that is fulfilling, healthy, deliberate, and satisfying. It will take you out of the "victim" state, and put you into a power position that will allow you to be the captain of your own ship!
I have written several blogs on mindfulness, but feel the need to reiterate on it. We can never be reminded enough about the fact that we are in control of every thought that we have, every emotion that we feel, and every action that we take.
The problem begins with our unconsciousness in choosing our thoughts, feelings, and emotions. We have over 60,000 thoughts a day, yet most thoughts we have are without consciousness.
When you are dwelling in fearful thoughts...it is you that chooses to do so. When you are obsessing in angry thoughts, it is you that chooses to do so. When you are having those awful jealous feelings, it is you that chooses to do so. It is always a choice, whether it is conscious or unconscious, it is a choice.
Now I know that some of you may be thinking right now that I am wrong, and that you are not choosing to think, feel, and react, negatively. That it is all happening to you. "Wrong!" You are the only one in your head....you are the only one that can control the thoughts, feelings, and emotions, that you are having. There is no one else in your mind but you....you are the one!
What is in your mind is all of the memories and experience's of what you have had in your life. All of the interactions, conversations, and peoples opinions, have helped to form how you think about everything. These are the things that make you have thoughts. These are the reasons we have certain beliefs, thoughts, behaviors, and reactions. Your thoughts come from how you decide to view every experience you have had in your life.
Being a victim of your own thoughts, emotions, and feelings, let's you off the hook for being responsible for anything that happens. Being a victim allows you to blame others and create a story that makes it someone else's fault.
Being a victim also takes away your power and makes you unable to create the life you want, because there will always be something or someone that causes your life to be bad. Being a victim means you are powerless and have no control over what happens to you.
When you realize that you are only a victim of yourself, and you can change that by being conscious of your thoughts, feelings, and actions, you will have freedom and power. When you get that you are the one in charge of how you think and react, it puts you in the driver seat of your life. You can do and be anything when you understand its all up to you.
Many people choose to stay victims so that they don't have to be responsible for anything that happens to them. All of the mistakes they have made, problems they have created, and issues they have are because of someone else, not them. This way they can wander through life pointing the finger at others for why their life is not going the way they want it to. Nonsense!
If you are in an abusive relationship, but continue to stay, it is not the fault of the abuser. It is your choice to stay and your choice to continue being abused. As I have said before, if you are in a abusive relationship, take a look in the mirror and ask your self why you have such low self worth that you would allow someone to degrade, demoralize, and treat you badly. Make the choice consciously to get out of that relationship. Then spend time on your self, working on building up your self worth by getting at the source of it.
By the way, I have been in abusive relationships, so I speak from experience.
Get yourself healthy first, then you can have a healthy relationship.
Choose to make that step. This is mindfulness.
Choose to think better of yourself, this is mindfulness.
Choose to feel better about yourself, this is mindfulness.
Choose to be grateful, this is mindfulness.
Choose to think positive thoughts, this is mindfulness.
Choose not to be a victim, this is mindfulness.
Choose to stay out of fear, this is mindfulness.
These are all choice's that you can make, if you are mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
Get control of your life and choose mindfulness. It will change your life for the better, and will give you back your power. You will be in charge of what happens to you by how you react, think, and feel. That is freedom! That is power!