Have you ever given thought to how many people in your life you rely on for things? You rely on your parents to give you food, clothing, emotional support, and a roof over your head. You rely on your friends for fun, emotional support, confidentiality, and to be there when you need them. You rely on your teachers for giving you an education, and so on and so on.
The truth of the matter is.....the only one you can truly rely on is yourself. Many times we put the burden on others for what we should be responsible for. Of course when you are young and living at home with your parents, they are the ones that are responsible for your material and emotional care.
However, many children come from homes where the parents are not always acting responsible for these things. There are children that do not get nurturing, loving, support. There are children that do not get the latest fashion, or high tech device's. Are these kids suppose to be totally at the mercy of parents who might be incapable of nurturing, or who can not afford to give their children new clothes and other material things?
In any dysfunctional family situation, you must rely on yourself to get through it. This can be done by using your mindfulness practice. You can choose to think about anything the way that you want to. For instance; if your parents do not say uplifting things to you, or abuse you verbally, you can choose to believe that what they say is not true. You can rely on yourself to understand that the truth is, You are a wonderful, unique, individual, that has much to offer to this world.
If your parents can not afford the things that you want, rely on yourself to get a part time job to earn the money for those things. Rely on your self to create the income for your material desires.
When you are in school, it is not just the teacher that you should rely on and who is solely responsible for your education. It is you who is the one who has the most responsibility to it. You must rely on yourself to do the work that gives you the education. The teacher is the facilitator, but you are the one that has to do the learning. You may not always get the best of teachers for every class, but you will always have "You" to do the learning. Take responsibility and "rely" on yourself to get the job done.
When we are in relationship with friends or an intimate partner, we usually rely on them to make us happy and have a good time. Save yourself a lot of heart ache and pain by understanding that "NO" one can make you happy. You must rely on yourself for that. True happiness comes from inside you, not anywhere else. People do not make us happy, they can however, accentuate and add to your happiness. Rely on yourself for real happiness.
When we rely on others for our needs, we only set ourselves up for disappointment. That does not mean to say that others will not be there for you, of course they will, but have it be something that will be a bonus in your life, and not an expectation.
Expect that you can always rely on yourself to get things done, to choose healthy thoughts, and to love yourself. Be the one you can count on who will always do their best. You can never be disappointed unless you decide to let yourself down, for you are the only person that you can truly control.
So start relying on yourself for creating the life that you want. You can do whatever it is that you desire if you have the belief, are persistent, take action, and do what it takes. If you rely on others to get your job done......you may always be disappointed....choose to be responsible and rely on "You".
- I have been a teacher of fitness and health for thirty years. In 1989 I was certified for personal training with the National Acadamy of Sports Medicine. I had a gym in Santa Barbara for eight years. Co-owned and created a spinning bike company which manufactured bikes for five years. Also I have worked with nutrition companies for twenty years. Along with many wonderful non famous people I have trained many celebrities, and members of the Royal Family. My own athletic past consists of long distance running, long distance cycling, cross country skiing, down hill skiing, rollerblading, hiking, sand running, track work, and weight training. I have authored two fitness columns in local papers, and have been writing this blog since January 2010.