- I have been a teacher of fitness and health for thirty years. In 1989 I was certified for personal training with the National Acadamy of Sports Medicine. I had a gym in Santa Barbara for eight years. Co-owned and created a spinning bike company which manufactured bikes for five years. Also I have worked with nutrition companies for twenty years. Along with many wonderful non famous people I have trained many celebrities, and members of the Royal Family. My own athletic past consists of long distance running, long distance cycling, cross country skiing, down hill skiing, rollerblading, hiking, sand running, track work, and weight training. I have authored two fitness columns in local papers, and have been writing this blog since January 2010.
Monday, April 12, 2010
Judging Others for What they Have or Don't Have
We live in a material world, full of material things that we love to have. We thrive on having lots of things. These things include houses, cars, clothing, jewelery, art, boats, electronics, and any other thing that is a material item.
Unfortunately, many of us define ourselves and others by these things. We look at someone who drives an expensive luxury car and we make the assumption that that person is special or better in some way.
We see people wearing expensive clothes and make the same assumption....they are better or somehow in a different category than the rest of us. If someone lives in a big expensive home, we see them as higher class, or superior to others.
Wearing expensive jewelery can give people an idea that this person is wealthy and therefore above others who are not.
None of the above is true by the way. Material things do "Not" define us. I have had the opportunity to work with many successful and wealthy people in my career. I have known millionaires, and some billionaires during my career as a personal trainer and business owner. I have come to several conclusions about money, things, and what they mean.
First of all having money does not make you anything, except to allow you to be more of what you already are. If you are a nice, generous person, you have the opportunity to be more generous and nice. If you are a selfish, nasty person, you will be able to be more selfish and nasty. Money gives you choices, it does not define who you are.
I have known some people with extreme wealth that are incredible, kind, loving, giving, human beings. On the other hand I have known wealthy people that are stingy, self centered, glutenous, human beings that do not use their wealth for the betterment of anyone but themselves.
When you are young, you have what ever it is that your parents have created. If you are wearing designer clothes, it is not from your efforts, but those of your parents. If you can not afford designer clothes, it has nothing to do with you as a person, only your circumstance.
If you are living in a beautiful expensive home as a teenager, it does not reflect on you personally, again it is from your parents lives that this would be possible. It also does not reflect on you if your home is less than desirable, it is only your life situation at the moment due to your family's circumstance.
So if you judge others for what they have, or don't have, think again. Look at a persons character, who they are if you want to make a judgment. See past the material things if you want to make a true assessment of who someone is. What they drive, wear, or live in is not who they are, it is only what they have.
We are all guilty of this, including myself, but I have learned through years of seeing the extreme wealth and poverty of life, that we can be deceived by making judgments about material things and who people are. Be more perceptive, look past the obvious and into what really matters.